Have you heard the saying “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with?”. All credit to Jim Rohn for that quote of gold.
When someone shared that quote with me for the first time a few years ago, I was totally rocked. I couldn’t get my mind around the idea that other people have such a profound effect on my day/mood/mindset.
Once I let that sink in, I thought about who it was that I was spending the most time with. I can say it was pretty easy to see then, why I was in the negative mindset I was in, why little challenges felt big, why my mojo was miserable.
These friends and family were a constant source of my un-happiness.
The relationships were one sided. The conversations were always grumbles and gripes. The people never choosing gratitude over negativity. I would receive sarcastic remarks on my successes. I was the recipient of their un-happiness.
It was nothing short of toxic.
At that revelation, I realised I needed to seek out new friendships and I limit the time I was spending with some family members. I needed friends and family who were interested in what was going on in my life. Friends and family that were my cheerleaders. I wanted to find friends that could give back to me in ways they could. I wanted to feel appreciated and loved.
The result was exponentially good. Not only was I happier, my husband and children were too. My new positive energy was contagious.
When I feel good, the troubles in life don’t rate so high.
When I feel positive, my children are also more cheerful.
When I feel appreciated, I give more, and with more passion.
Have you done a stocktake of your closest five? Are your closest five building you up or bringing you down?
One other bonus side effect to my new friends was getting more stuff done. For me, I feel unstoppable when I am happy. AND my good energy just keeps on rubbing off on others - again and again and again.
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